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Child Custody Evaluation ? Managing the Drama While Keeping Cool with the Evaluator
March 25, 2011
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By this time you already know you are in a high conflict child custody battle but the drama just won’t go away. No matter how hard you try to keep away from the drama it just keeps following you around. You beg and plead, no matter what you do it is always met with resistance and claims of just another thing you have done wrong. Now you need to meet with the evaluator and you have no idea what kind of drama the other parent may try to use against you.
It is very disheartening to try and prepare for a meeting with the evaluator and realize that your high conflict relationship is going to be the focus of your meeting. The real question becomes, how do you make a silk purse out of a sows ear? Well there is a way. If you have truly focused on issues that are of importance to your child and the other parent has made drama, you can use this to your advantage. Here’s how.
Since the evaluator is focused on the best interest of the child and not the accompanying drama and personal attacks you can use the personal attacks and drama to your advantage. What you want to show is that you have been focused on issues that concern your child but that the other parent has been focused on creating drama, making accusations, talking about moral issues, or any other thing that does not directly affect the child.
You may be tempted to rant about the other parent and the constant level of high conflict between you. Instead spend just enough time to address that while it is an issue, the only reason it is and issue is because the other parent focuses on it.
Do your best to document each instance when the anxiety is brought up. Document each phone call, email, text, and conversation where the focus on the child was lost. The more times you can document, the better your argument that you are bombarded by drama. If you ask for help to eliminate the drama, you may just get it.
So remember that the more you document this phenomenon, the better your chances of getting help to stop it and the better the chances of winning your child custody battle.
Ed Brooks knows firsthand how painful a High Conflict Child Custody battle can be. Ed has created a site where parents can get advice on how to handle all aspects of a high conflict child custody battle. http://www.child-custody-forum.com/
If you want to learn more about handling child custody evaluation issues you can find it here: http://www.child-custody-forum.com/6-Child-Custody-Evaluation.php
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High Conflict Child Custody ? Headed for Evaluation and Want to Know What to Expect?
March 7, 2011
PlusJudge Orders Release of Polygamist Group’s KidsJudge Orders Release of Polygamist Group’s KidsThe Associated PressA Texas district judge has ordered the return of more than 400 children taken from a polygamist sect’s ranch, with some legal restrictions. (June 2)After weeks in protective custody — children from a Texas polygamist group are being reunited with their families. Early Monday — a Texas judge signed an order returning custody of the children to their parents – The move comes one day after a meeting of attorneys from Texas child protective services — and members of the Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints [[SOT]] [[SUPER: Brad Haralson//Represents FLDS Mothers&Children]]”we’re just trying to see if can get this thing worked out as quickly as possible.” As part of the order — parents are not allowed to leave the state of Texas without court permission and must participate in parenting classes. [[SOT]][[SUPER: Laura Shockley//Attorney for FLDS Mothers]]” this is not a logistical problem as the state asserts…because it certainly wasn’t a logistical problem for them to haul those kids off the ranch.” The order comes days after the Texas Supreme Court ruled that protective services had overreached in seizing custody of the children from the Yearning for Zion Ranch back in April. It’s one of the largest custody battles in American history. ___ ___, The Associated Press.
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When you are in a high conflict custody battle you never work things out between the parties and you head of to mediation and evaluation. Why, because if you agreed there wouldn’t be any need to keep going. So of course the court has planned for this and provided and evaluator or in some instances, shortened the process and used a mediator to mediate/assess/evaluate your case. But what are you really getting into when you head for evaluation?
What you are heading for is going through a potentially lengthy process that will result in the evaluator creating a report that makes suggestions about how your case should be handled. In the end if no changes are made this report will be adopted by the court as your custody order. So this is something you want to be well prepared for.
The evaluators role is to assess the parenting skills and abilities of the individual parent/caretaker. Each case is handles individually but there are general patterns.
Some of the tools available to evaluators are:
Interviews with both parents either together or separately if domestic violence is involved. Observing the child with each parent, possibly in each parents home. Interviewing other members of the homes including step parents, step children, and roommates. Interviews with the child in an age appropriate format. Reviewing all of the other documents submitted by both parties. Interviews with other significant people in the child’s life. For instance, grandparents, aunts uncles, teachers, coaches, or anyone else who can help them understand the needs of the child.
All measures are taken to assure that both parties are treated equally and fairly.
The entire process can take around 3 months to complete. It is very thorough and intensive. Remember what the evaluators role is. To assess the parenting skills and abilities. Leave out everything else about the other parent and focus on your skills and abilities versus theirs. People who are focused on personalities and morals are destined to finish this process frustrated and unfulfilled.
Ed Brooks knows firsthand how painful a High Conflict Child Custody battle can be. Ed has created a site where parents can get advice on how to handle all aspect of a high conflict child custody battle. http://www.child-custody-forum.com/
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